What if Mama Has a New Baby? – A New Question Facing Chinese Kids
China’s ‘two-child policy‘, that was announced last autumn and went into effect on January 1st of this year, has triggered heated discussions about its demographic, economic, social, familial and personal implications. In 2011, it was already allowed for couples to have a second child if they were both an only child. In 2013, the policy was extended towards couples of whom one is an only child. The 2015 policy was the final step that brought the one-child-policy era to an end.
What does the new policy mean for children whose parents are planning to have a second baby? A video on Sina Weibo addresses this question, and has attracted more than 20 million views under the hashtag #a message to moms pregnant with a second baby (二胎妈妈被告白).
In the video, kids are asked what they think of having a younger brother or sister. Most kids do not seem to embrace the prospect too heartily: one girl says that her mom won’t love her anymore, and another child is doubtful of whether his mom is able to give birth to “so many kids”. Afterwards, the kids are told that their moms are indeed pregnant. Hearing the news, the kids express their disbelief. Some look really sad and try to hold the emotion back; one boy is even in tears. But at the end of the video, all kids eventually say they will love their moms all the same, if not even more, for her pregnancy.
Some Weibo users express sympathy towards the disappointment and anxiety of the kids. One comment writes: “Even though parents love [their children] equally, their time and energy will still be divided into two. The first kid has enjoyed the full time and attention of the parents, and will surely feel disappointed when another kid suddenly comes”. Another comment reads: “I didn’t want a sibling when I was a kid, so I will not force it on my kid; we are all selfish.”
Advocates of having a second child argue that siblings are an advantage when growing up. When deciding to have another baby, they say, parents should communicate with their child and respect the child’s opinion.
There are also comments pointing out that discussions about siblings are actually somewhat absurd, since having a baby, as getting a sibling, is nothing but natural. It has only become “unnatural” and requires getting used to because of China’s three-decade-long one-child policy. Today’s children were born to parents who are strange to the idea of growing up with brothers and sisters, and who are used to full attention from parents. They were also born into a society influenced and shaped by its participants’ solitary process of growing up. It is within such social context that having siblings has become a point of discussion. In other words; the children in the video are only asked about their feelings about mum having another baby because the idea of having a brother or sister is so unfamiliar for their parents’ generation.
It yet remains to be seen whether or not the two-child policy will alleviate the problematic phenomenon of China’s “little princess” and “little emperors”. It will take another decade before the policy’s impact can be fruitfully discussed.
Although the video has generated much discussion, it was actually not meant to stir public debate – it was actually a commercial campaign by Shenzhou Zuche (神州租车), the biggest car-renting company in China (leasing and chauffeured). On March 16, Shenzhou and China’s Committee of Road Traffic Safety published a new regulation concerning safety issues in car-renting services for pregnant women.
According to China Economics, the number of pregnant women in 2016 is estimated to be 280 million. This ‘baby boom‘ is caused by two things; the introduction of the two-child policy and the Year of the Monkey, which is considered a good year to have a baby. Shenzhou therefore developed new rental services for pregnant women who are extra “vulnerable on the road”, according to Shenzhou CEO Wang Peiqiang (王培强). Cars with higher performance and comfort will be provided to pregnant women, with vomiting bags, pillows and prenatal education CDs. Shenzhou’s drivers are specially trained for basic medical aid, and the driving speed is restricted to under 60km/h.
– By Diandian Guo
Image caption reads: “finally there will be someone I can play with!”
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