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Thai Nurse Trying to Rescue Man by Performing Heart Massage Criticised for “Looking Vulgar”

“She is saving someone’s life, yet all you can think of is sex.”

Manya Koetse



An incident involving a nurse dressed in short pants providing first aid to a male patient has triggered controversy in Thailand. Discussions have now blown over to Chinese social media: “Did you expect her to change clothes first?”, some netizens wonder.

Footage of a woman wearing a t-shirt and very short pants while providing immediate cardiac massage to a man on a stretcher is going viral on Chinese social media. The woman, who is a nurse by the name of ‘Puliya’, recently triggered controversy for “looking vulgar.”

The patient reportedly lost consciousness and suffered acute cardiac problems in a Bangkok neighborhood on February 21st. He was urgently brought to the ambulance by first aid workers when the woman got up on the stretcher to provide heart massage to rescue him.

But instead of praise, the woman received criticism for her “obscene” clothing and posture while giving first aid. Various bloggers in Thailand and China first started posting about the incident on February 23.

According to popular Chinese blog site, Puliya publicly apologized soon after the incident, and said that she did not consider her clothing or posture at that moment as she was only thinking about rescuing the man.

The man whose life the nurse tried to rescue unfortunately passed away.

On Weibo, one person received nearly 10,000 likes for commenting: “She is trying to save someone’s life, yet all you can think of is sex!”

“Did you expect her to go home and change her clothing first?”, another netizen commented.

In a NetEase column on the incident, one reporter wrote on March 5: “If someone did something wrong, they should apologize, but there are some ‘apologies’ that should only make the receivers feel ashamed.”

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“For the people who are criticizing this nurse now, I hope that when you end up on a stretcher needing help, the woman providing first aid will go home first to change clothes and have a cup of tea before she comes back to ‘elegantly’ come rescue you,” another Weibo blogger said.

See full video of the incident below [viewer discretion is advised]:

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Manya Koetse is the founder and editor-in-chief of She is a writer, public speaker, and researcher (Sinologist, MPhil) on social trends, digital developments, and new media in an ever-changing China, with a focus on Chinese society, pop culture, and gender issues. She shares her love for hotpot on Contact at, or follow on Twitter.

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China Memes & Viral

Innocent Fight or Gaslighting Problem? Couple’s Argument Over a Bowl of Noodles Goes Viral

As the video of a fight over a bowl of noodles went viral, thousands of netizens turned into armchair therapists and advised the couple to break up.

Manya Koetse



Why did a private argument between a Chinese couple over an unappetizing bowl of noodles at a local noodle shop attract over 300 million views and thousands of comments? The video unexpectedly led Chinese netizens to analyze the toxic dynamics within the couple’s relationship.

A video showing a woman and her partner arguing over a bowl of noodles has gone completely viral on Chinese social this week, with one hashtag about the topic attracting over 160 million clicks on Weibo (#女生因为吃面崩溃#).

One thread about the topic received over one million likes and more than 30,000 comments and shares on Weibo, and the video went viral on China’s Douyin (TikTok).

The video shows the moment a woman loses it because her partner criticizes her for complaining about the food at a local noodle shop. The couple apparently had to wait half an hour for their 15 yuan ($2.20) noodle dish. When it finally arrived, it did not taste good at all, and the woman proceeded to complain about it to the noodle shop owner.

Her partner, however, felt that they were “losing face” over a small issue and walked off. If your noodles aren’t tasty, you just leave and find another place instead, he argued.

The video, allegedly recorded in Anhui’s Hefei, is just 1,5 minutes long and shows the discussion between the woman and her partner as they are seated in the car after the incident happened. The woman is clearly very upset about her partner blaming her for embarrassing them – she feels she has every right to complain about a dish that smells and tastes funny and is very emotional about her partner not supporting her.

The video went viral for various reasons. The very fact that a private argument between a couple was posted online for everyone to see is one of the reasons, but it goes further than that.

According to some views, the partner posted the video online to show the behavior of his wife and get people to side with him, but instead many saw a red flag in his behavior: this was not about a bowl of noodles anymore, but about the man making his partner think that her normal behavior was completely out of line.

This is why many blame the man for “gaslighting” his partner. The word in Chinese is “méiqì dēng xiàoyìng” (煤气灯效应), “gaslight effect,” and refers to a form of manipulation.

Gaslighting is a psychological method in which a person – often a romantic partner – repeatedly questions or denies the victim’s reality, leading them to doubt their own perceptions and experiences. As a result, the victim becomes confused and agitated, feeling as though they are wrong or at fault for situations that they are not responsible for. This can cause significant distress and erode the victim’s self-confidence and sense of identity, which then might cause them to stay in a relationship that is actually toxic.

The term “gaslighting” comes from the 1944 American film Gaslight, which was previously a play, in which a husband manipulates his wife into believing she is mentally unwell by causing the gas lights in their home to flicker on and off, and then denying that anything is wrong with them.

On Weibo and Douyin, hundreds of commenters pointed out that the man was gaslighting his wife, especially because her extreme emotional response showed that his accusations greatly confused and upset her – suggesting this might happen more often. Others called this a case of cyberbullying, and they advised the woman to separate from her husband. Some bloggers recorded entire videos as armchair therapists, analyzing the incident from start to finish.

Meanwhile, some commenters wonder if the entire video might have been staged for clout.

It is not uncommon for small, private affairs among unknown people to go viral like this. Last year, an individual female blogger posting about her upcoming trip to West Africa went completely viral after she stopped updating her blogs and netizens feared she had been abducted.

The issue grew so big that even the Chinese Consultate in Nigeria responded to the issue (#大使馆回应周周在西非已失联#) and said they would look into the matter. The girl later posted she was doing ok.

Another example of an individual post becoming trending nationwide happened in 2016 when a Shanghai girl was so disappointed about what her boyfriend’s parents served her for Chinese New Year, that she ended her relationship because of it.

Stories such as these often gain so much attention because parts of the story resonate with netizens and trigger wider discussions about morals, emotions, and people’s relationships.

By Manya Koetse , with contributions by Miranda Barnes

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Writings on the Wall: Removing China’s One-Child Policy Propaganda

While there are more efforts to erase old propaganda slogans, some people don’t understand the rush: “It’s ingrained in our memories already.”

Manya Koetse



For decades, slogans written on walls all across China propagandized the country’s one-child policy.

In many places, especially in rural areas, these old slogans withstood the test of time and are still visible on brick walls or roadside signs.

Image via The Observer on Weibo @观察者网

China implemented its one-child policy in 1979, which lasted until the ‘two-child policy’ was introduced in 2016.

Especially in China’s rural areas, wall propaganda was an important way to disseminate the country’s one-child policy.

This year, these old propaganda slogans have been getting more attention in Chinese media. In February, Health Times (健康时报) noted how this kind of propaganda was still visible in many places in China, from Hebei to Gansu, from Shanxi to Hunan, despite their messages being completely outdated.

While the messages emphasize that it is better to have one child and that couples should not have a second or third child, Chinese authorities are now encouraging couples to have more than one child due to the country’s falling birthrates (see our recent article here).

The propaganda from the 1980s, 1990s, and 2000s, therefore, is not just outdated, it also goes against everything the government is currently promoting to citizens.

Image via Weibo user @冰霜里的火焰瓶.

These are some examples of well-known or common one-child policy propaganda slogans:

■ 超生者倾家荡产 Chāoshēngzhě qīng jiā dàng chǎn
“Those who have more children than allowed will lose a family fortune.”

■ 少生优生,幸福一生 Shǎo shēng yōushēng, xìngfú yīshēng
“Give birth to fewer but better [healthier] children, and you will have a happy life.”

■ 晚婚晚育,少生优生 Wǎnhūn wǎnyù, shǎo shēng yōushēng
“Late marriage and late childbearing, fewer and better births”

■ 一人超生,全村结扎 Yīrén chāoshēng, quán cūn jiézā
“One person bears one more child, and the whole village gets their tubes tied”

■ 宁可血流成河不可多生一个 Nìngkě xuè liú chénghé bùkě duō shēng yīgè
“Rather blood flowing like streams than have an extra child”

Image via Weibo user @冰霜里的火焰瓶.

In the article “Wall Slogans: the Communication of China’s Family Planning Policy in Rural Areas” by Guoyan Wang, the author notes how many of these ubiquitous slogans – especially the shocking ones – were “obvious misinterpretations” of China’s official family planning policy – locally widely used, but not part of the central slogans. Instead of giving warning or providing information, these bloody slogans actually provoked people’s antipathy and resistance instead of (p. 102, 2018).

Nevertheless, they lasted for years and became a “mirror of social times” (p. 99).

According to Wang, the campaign to clean up these slogans already started in 2007, long before the end of the one-child policy, because the National Population and Family Planning Commission wanted to get rid of those slogan that were not “people-oriented” (p. 105-106).

While getting rid of non-official slogans was already part of China’s “family planning efforts in the new age” in 2007, it is all the more important now in a time when China moved away from the one-child policy and also allows couples to have three children – or even more.

“Fewer and better births are good for the country and the people.” Image via Btime.

On Weibo, where the topic of the old slogans being removed was discussed under various hashtags (#计划生育宣传语应及时清理#, #多地清理计划生育过时宣传语#), some people think the slogans should not be removed because they have historical value or that they should be preserved in other ways.

Cleaning up old propaganda, image via Netease/Weibo @搜狐新闻.

Removing old propaganda posters or info boards, image via Sanlian Weekly 三联生活周刊.

“It does not matter [if they remove them or not],” another commenter wrote: “They’ve already become ingrained in our minds.”

“Is removing them like pretending it never happened?” others wondered: “Why the rush?”

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Wang, Guoyan. 2018. “Wall Slogans: the Communication of China’s Family Planning Policy in Rural Areas.” Rural History 29 (1): 99-112.

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